Conversations
with God - 10
Devotee
- Swami, today You are going to give us some practical hints about how to
develop shraddha and vichara, as promised by You. This is a
wonderful experience, being instructed by the Divine Himself. Till today I had vague
ideas about spiritual life, and generally believed that spirituality cannot be
a serious pursuit for the modern man. I used to think, be a man of the world,
and love God; that should be enough.
Swami
- Could be nearly enough if you add a clause: be a man of the world, but do not belong to it.
D -
How is that Swami? If we live in this world, we must belong to it, for we are a
part of it. We have work to do, duties to perform, and our success or failure
is the cause of our happiness or misery. We experience in the world disease and
death, poverty and pain, love and hate, desertation of near and dear ones,
calamities inflicted on us by fellow humans and nature, the
list is endless. Sometimes we wish death
is better than going through the endless vagaries of life! And now you say we
do not belong to the world! Is it more wishful than real?
S -
Yes, and No. Imagine two blind men. Both of them lost their eyes in the same
accident. One of them lived the rest of his life an angry and hungry man,
complaining to heaven and earth of God’s indiscretion. The other refused to
bend his knees to his handicap, learnt a trade, and lived to become a
prosperous, respectable citizen. The first one belonged to the world, the
second to himself. The world with its series of work-worry-woe failed to subdue
his spirit.
D
-That is wonderful Swami, a very inspiring story. But Swami, though the second
person is not subdued by his handicap, he experiences all the worries,
uncertainties, and pains of living in the world. In that sense he belongs to
it.
S - He lives in
the world, but is not mastered by it. He can still smile, can keep his wits
around himself, and live without complaints. He knows what he can achieve, and
cannot, and does not lose his sleep over what he cannot. He knows what is
inevitable, and what he can change. He does not hold either God or the world responsible for his woes, fixes his attention
on rising above them all. But in one sense he belongs to the world.
D - What is that Swami?
D - What is that Swami?
S
- He is still trapped by his ambition,
his desires, and the fear of failure. All his energies are spent on grappling
with that one adversary, blindness, directed towards rising above his physical
handicap. But do you think he experiences the joy of fulfillment?
D - I
am not sure swami. But he has achieved something phenomenal, and that should
make him happy.
S -
How long? After reaching his goal of wealth and respect, he comes at par with
people with eyes, in a way, better than many. Then what more remains for him to
achieve? Will it not be an emptiness for him after that? Will he not suddenly
be overtaken by his handicap, and remember what he could not achieve? Will it
not undo the hard work of a lifetime?
The fire which has burned in him incessantly, must be kept burning,
otherwise, the fire is going to consume him
now, for it has nothing else to consume.
D
–Swami, this is completely a new angle of seeing! I confess, this is probable.
But aren’t you pointing out that a successful man of the world is happy and
unhappy at the same time, successful and unsuccessful at the same time?
S
- My boy, he succeeded in overcoming
poverty, and shame, true, but did he succeed in overcoming sorrow, suffering,
fear, apprehension, disease and death?
D –
But no one can.
S - He partially did. When he resolved to deny the world
of darkness and despair an easy prey, which the other blind was, he was still
blind, yet he was not. He could not see, yet he did everything to be at par
with a man who could. He was not confined by his handicap. If you carry this
possibility a little further, you could be poor, but not fall a prey to
poverty; you might be betrayed, but not give in to anger or despondence; you
might be caught young by a terminal disease, but not rave at fate or the
doctors, and live the rest of the sunshine with a cool
head on your shoulders. That is being in the world, yet not being a part of it.
D –Swami, how elevating
is the thought! But how could one make this possibility
a reality?
a reality?
S - With a little
detachment. Once you begin to believe that you are not in essence this body and
mind, that you are someone who could have this apparatus in your control; that
death is not your extinction; that apparent failures are feeble distractions,
you will begin to draft a different success story. You will look beyond status,
wealth, authority, appeasement of senses etc which your world dubs as success.
You will visualize another horizon across which lies your kingdom, the kingdom
of heaven, which Jesus spoke so often. Though you will not hate this world, nor
try to run away from it, you can still love it and serve it as a temporary
resting place which you have to live in order to outlive it. That is being in the world, and not a part of it.
D -
Swami, every word you speak opens a new window before me, shows me a new dawn.
I am increasingly overwhelmed by its glory. But Swami, I have still some
questions, for if I do not ask now, I know I may never get another chance to
see my way to that glory.
S – I
am always glad to clear and clarify your way to me. What greater joy can a
father have more than seeing his prodigal son back home? Ask.
D –
What is this detachment, Swami, which
turns the world around? How does one practise it?
S –With a little commonsense you can do that. Suppose you were going on a journey, and missed a train. You would start raving and ranting against the department, and give yourself and the people around a hard time complaining about your misery. By doing so, you cannot get a new train provided for your journey. You will only fail to enjoy your lunch or dinner, as the case may be. Instead, if you pretend a little detachment, and try to explore an alternative route, or train, or if you must wait for the next connection, which was a few hours later, go round the place in a relaxed manner, or try to remember if you have a friend in the place you can spend some time with, or sit down in the rest room and read a book, you can profit well from this untoward situation. Or, take another example. Suppose someone has lost their only child young. Obviously, they would cry aloud against a cruel fate, and an insensitive God. No amount of discourse can bring quiet and understanding to them. If they try to reason out, which no doubt a near impossible task, that even though the child’s death has filled their lives with darkness, whether they would spend the rest of their lives in this darkness, or seek some light to go through life, is in their hands, they will soon have the wisdom of being a little detached. Isn’t that real? Isn’t that practical? Time heals all wounds.
S –With a little commonsense you can do that. Suppose you were going on a journey, and missed a train. You would start raving and ranting against the department, and give yourself and the people around a hard time complaining about your misery. By doing so, you cannot get a new train provided for your journey. You will only fail to enjoy your lunch or dinner, as the case may be. Instead, if you pretend a little detachment, and try to explore an alternative route, or train, or if you must wait for the next connection, which was a few hours later, go round the place in a relaxed manner, or try to remember if you have a friend in the place you can spend some time with, or sit down in the rest room and read a book, you can profit well from this untoward situation. Or, take another example. Suppose someone has lost their only child young. Obviously, they would cry aloud against a cruel fate, and an insensitive God. No amount of discourse can bring quiet and understanding to them. If they try to reason out, which no doubt a near impossible task, that even though the child’s death has filled their lives with darkness, whether they would spend the rest of their lives in this darkness, or seek some light to go through life, is in their hands, they will soon have the wisdom of being a little detached. Isn’t that real? Isn’t that practical? Time heals all wounds.
D - Swami, I agree that
can help in such extreme situations, though it is, as you admitted, nearly
impossible. But is detachment suitable for such extreme situations only? What
about living in the world, doing one’s duty, being part of the usual rounds of
pleasure and pain, with responsibilities and commitments, with demands to be
fulfilled, and obligations to be met, can detachment really help? If one goes
through all this without any interest, will not the work suffer, will not
people around take it as rudeness? A son may not be sensitive to his parents,
and a doctor to his patients. Is it acceptable?
S - That is
not detachment, that is selfishness, or as you said, rudeness. A man of
detachment cannot be insensitive to pain and suffering, indifferent to his
duties and obligations, only he will not lose his direction through these
experiences. A person of detachment is also a person of right attachment,
attachment to God, attachment to enduring values. Non- attachment is born out
of a loving disposition, a love that blesses all things, sees the presence of
God in all things. Attachment is the secret desire to possess, detachment is
freedom from that desire. In fact no freedom is possible without detachment.
D - I
didn’t understand this new idea Swami. How attachment is a desire to possess,
and detachment freedom that desire?
S - If you have seen a
beautiful sunrise at a seashore, you would like to see it again and again,
won’t you? You would love it. But there is no attachment in this love, you
cannot ask the sun to offer you this experience to you only at your home far
inland. You cannot possess this loveliness, take a patent on it. If you watch a
child smile, you would smile too in spite of yourself. There is no attachment
in it. But if you think my child should
smile better than all other children, that is attachment, and you can’t
enjoy even your child’s smile! If you admire a friend’s new car, or his new
house, and feel jealous of them, it is attachment, which does not allow you to
appreciate them properly. You will lose your sleep over planning how to get a
better car, or a better house, and for no reason you would get angry with your
friend. If you can remain free from the bug of greed and jealousy, you can
better appreciate the innovative design of the car, or the architecture of the
house. Admire, but do not desire,
that is detachment.
D – Swami, will it not
come in the way of our efforts? A detached man might not feel motivated to
upgrade his skill and achievement. He might not give his best, and be a
slipshod worker. That would damage the organization he works for and
consequently himself.
S -
That man is lazy, not detached. Laziness is selfishness, not detachment. A
truly detached man has no attachment to his gains or profits. He will never
ask, “What do I profit by being so sincere, or hardworking? I can easily relax
and take my time to reach the target which profits others. Anyway, detachment
is a spiritual thing, and I can’t be faulted for being spiritual”. Is that
spirituality? A spiritual man always thinks of how the world can benefit from
his work. He is the most selfless worker, most efficient worker. Detachment,
therefore, improves the world, improves your work, increases the quantum of
happiness in the society; it should be the gospel of an awakened mankind.
D -
There is a fire running in my veins Swami, but still I have to get more from
You. I am hungry for more.
S -
When a child is hungry, the mother too feels restless to feed him. Fire your
question. Let me also see how hot your fire is!
D - How to improve this detachment Swami?
S - If you analyse these states of attachment and
detachment you will see that you are attached to something which belongs to
you, or something you want to make your own. The key word is possession. If something is not yours,
unless you are greedy, you are generally detached from it. Hundreds of parents
are losing their children all over the world daily. Do you weep for them? Do
you call fate or God unjust on that account? But when your son dies, young
or old, God has a shower of choicest expletives! Isn’t that irrational?
D
- So you call attachment irrational,
Swami?
S -
While death is natural, death in your house is unacceptable. Is it
rational? You possess your son,
and it is entirely your prerogative to decide when, or if, he could leave you. Is it rational?
D - It
appears wrong when we think about it this way. But Swami, if one does not shed
a tear when someone so dear to him leaves him, is that rational?
S
- Is it rational too to feel nothing
when the only son of a father in Mumbai, or Toronto dies young, leaving him
shattered? He was also dear to his father. Do you shed a tear when a little
sparrow is eaten by a cat, or a stray puppy is crushed under the wheels of your
car? No, because they are birds, and animals, and they do not deserve the
sympathies of the lofty man! The relationship is same. If shedding tear is
justified by relationships, my boy, you can never wipe your eyes dry, and life
would come to a standstill.
D
- What should we do then, Swami?
S
- We will continue the dialogue next
week.
To continue --
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